First we seek to ground ourselves in good will. Then we learn to listen. We hear what is said and what is not being said. We work with the emotions on the surface and the emotions beneath the surface. We study how we feel fear and how we blame. We look for what we find inspiring in the other person. We see how our childhood experiences may be affecting our adult perceptions and choices. We experiment with seeing it differently, hearing it differently, doing it differently, We become more clear about what we want. We may need to learn about standing our ground; we may need to learn how to let go. We rediscover in ourselves and in each another the resources and wisdom that will help resolve the difficulty. With the release of what has become stuck and entrenched, and with new understanding and compassion, clarity and growth can follow.